Coffee with Ali: What Social Distancing has Taught Me

Life hasn’t changed that much for me. Not only being an introvert already used to the idea of Social Distancing, but also being a person working from home for the last 7 years or so. That’s not to say it’s been easy. Not at all. Alone time has actually reduced; not being able to solo travel, family in the house, no physical interactions with close friends, waking up a little later than usual and staying in my pyjamas all day long, are just a few examples. I’ve been very careful not to let this time slowly disintegrate all the hard work I’ve done for myself over the years. Something I will write a post on for sure but on the whole i’m one of the lucky ones. I still have a job and my work load is still pretty much the same as before. The same can’t be said for quite few, and worryingly increasing number of people close to me whom are suffering the devastating consequences of lockdown. Those in the hospitality industry, leisure, retail; jobs and own businesses pretty much destroyed. Healthcare guys and girls are just pure exhausted. And of course, the nightmare of untimely deaths.

Naturally this makes one think about whats really important in life. How and what we, as a collective unified humanity, need to be right now and, without a doubt what to do afterwards. I say afterwards, and I know, I get it, I really do, it’s easy to say this, but I really truly believe that everything will be okay. We will get out of this and we will be better when all said and done. HOWEVER, there is a caveat, in fact a fairly big caveat to supporting this. It all depends on how we we act now as individuals.

Structure

Having some kind of structure sounds obvious but we need to have this. I mentioned earlier of some of my personal impacts and I was slowly and further losing myself to just thoughts. Yet I managed to pull myself back, still get my to do lists in, scheduling done, re-focus, writing, and conforming to a framework to survive daily isolated life. I wrote an article recently about how extroverts can cope with social distancing, as for them it is a nightmare. I have close friends and family who are really suffering not just for practical reasons but also mentally on how they source energy from their usual sources but now, these sources are completely shut off from them and need to find alternative sources. We introverts can also step up and help them; vocal touches, develop care programs, use some of our techniques of reflection, review, processing and learn to appreciate things that would not normally be even glanced at by our extrovert close ones. So with a structure in your day to day flow, you also structure yourself and to some extent provide structure to those around you.

Connections

Embedded within structure is connections. Connections with yourself, those close to you and to those who are not. These connections not only have to be present, but also consistent and persistent. Technology now is a gift and we have to use it be it from a text, voice call, video call, even a stupid selfie, the internet as a whole even! Whatever it is, anything to stimulate, to make someone smile. That stimuli, smile, generate’s energy. That energy can make the difference to someones day and in some cases the whole world of that person. This article, this blog, is another example of making a connection to those not close to me. If it helps, great, if not, then I have faith there are others doing the exact same and can help. Let’s not forget connections to ourselves. We don’t need to social distance ourself. This can be your faith, meditation, self development, diet, wellness, etc. Again, consistency is just as important. A daily, persistent, consistent flow of energy is what we all need right now.

Appreciation

With all the positive impacts from having a structure, ensuring consistent connections, the natural result has to be then; gratefulness and appreciation. This enables a solid foundation for after this period ends. Appreciating those close to us, to ourselves, the world around us, inclusive of tangible and intangible facets of our life. This may sound controversial, however if after all this is said and done, and we, as a collective whole do not have a higher level of appreciation, then I truly believe we have failed as humanity. We have failed. It’s not going to be easy. Man, it’s not going to be easy at all! BREXIT is almost now missed by us all in the news here in the UK, yet now, the very people who were screaming for sovereignty, their lives are in the hands of the people who potentially would not be able to even enter the country with new laws proposed. Other countries that banned the veil and burqa, now are all dressed the same. During this time, it matters not what religion you follow, what ethnicity you are, what level of austerity you have, this virus is not prejudiced. People are. Yet again we are seeing completely idiotic xenophobia against East Asians. I mean, seriously! I don’t have any palms anymore for face palming. Even with these significant blights of stupidity, I still believe the collective whole can attain better appreciation. The main reason is because those same people are 100% likely to be the exact same people stockpiling on toilet paper. There will always be people in this world that are full of shit and this is the fact we have to unfortunately live with.

There have been some amazing examples of how great humanity can be during a time like this. Healthcare professionals, risking their own lives to save lives. Corporate companies even stepping with acts of philanthropy and supporting their staff. The Royal Mint designed protective visors in just seven hours and mass produced them in 48 hours thereafter. So us as individuals that can support with our structure, connections and appreciation is the key to keep hope alive. We collectively cannot fear to have hope. Hope.

Love to hear your thoughts and ideas on how we can keep going. Drop a comment or email, let’s keep connecting. Stay healthy, Peace and Love. 

I may bullshit sometimes, but i’m not full of shit! Coffee… always! 🙂